I’m almost 30 now, did everything I thought I should by the books. Went to good schools, top the classes, got a scholarship and now work for the government. Yet I still can never get myself to have the self confidence of a mousedeer. The littlest criticism or someone raising their voice at me makes me question myself. My mental health is in the toilet but getting better with medications and therapy….all that years of trying to overachieve, that was all just trying to cover this hole of poor self-esteem in me. At 30 I don’t know if I can and will ever change. I am dating a wonderful person, but I keep thinking she should be better off with someone else. How do we do it? Start to have better self esteem?